Here are some of the most common ways I believe abuse is promoted – consciously or not – within churches: Holding fast to incorrect theology This, I think, has got to be the most dangerous of all. We tend to quote scripture incorrectly and out of context in order to promote our own opinion. This… Read More 6 Ways In Which “Church Culture” Promotes Abuse
Thank you to the men who are MEN: we see you; we appreciate you. The ones who not only take the Gospel seriously, but live it out. The ones who treat women as the equals they are as image bearers of God. The ones who love their wives as Christ loved the Church. The ones… Read More Men of God; We Need You
Dear Mr. President, I know that as the leader of this country, you have much more on your plate than any of us could even comprehend. As I am writing to you as a heartbroken, scared and angry citizen of our beloved country; I ask that you please spare a minute or two to read… Read More The Cry of the South African Woman
1. You can’t be yourself around them You find it difficult or draining to be in their presence because you constantly feel like they are trying to turn you into someone or something that fits their comfort zone. 2. They have issues with accepting boundaries They directly or indirectly demand that you set aside your… Read More 5 Indicators Of A Toxic Relationship
1. They tell blatant lies They know that you know they are lying, yet they still lie. They lie about anything, and they get upset when confronted about their dishonesty. Narcissists love to paint their own reality in order to get what they want from you and others and will never admit that they are… Read More 10 Signs Of A Narcissistic Partner
Let me start off by saying that the purpose of this post is not to minimise the importance or effectiveness of prayer; nor is the purpose to question God’s ability to perform miracles. As a woman who fully believes in Jesus and the power of prayer, I have no reason to downplay its importance. However,… Read More When Prayers and Hashtags Are Not Enough
Over these past few weeks I have seen several Christian women sharing their stories of domestic violence at the hands of their “Christian” husbands. Unfortunately, I also know numerous women (and men) who shared similar experiences while being married to their former “Christian” spouses. Narcissists thrive in a church environment because, unfortunately, they know that… Read More Narcissism and Why Marrying a “Church Guy” Is Not Enough
The past few days I have seen many different opinions regarding R Kelly and the docuseries, “Surviving R Kelly”, in which various victims speak out about their experiences of abuse at the hands of the RnB singer. The year 2018 was big in terms of exposure of sexual assault, with movements such as the “Me… Read More R Kelly: How The Church Contributes To The Culture Of Abuse
As someone who has compromised before and has also seen the detrimental consequences, I encourage you, daughter of God, to stop settling for what you know is not God’s will your life, in the name of honouring the institution of marriage. For a long time I told myself that I can’t possibly divorce my husband… Read More Are You Forsaking God In Order To Keep Your Marriage?
What distinguishes a survivor from a warrior? According to the dictionary, a survivor is defined as ‘a person who survives, especially a person remaining alive after an event in which others have died.’ Whereas, a warrior is defined as ‘a brave or experienced soldier or fighter.’ I will look at two biblical women to explain what differentiates a survivor from a warrior.… Read More Are You A Survivor, Or A Warrior?